Yup, he did it. And yes, I couldn’t be happier, but the reason I decided to write this post is not to share how happy we are or how he proposed. I decided to write this post to share a little bit about how I found myself after a major heartbreak and how I got to be the best version of myself before meeting the love of my life.
Three years ago, I was in a dark place. My heart was completely broken and I had no idea who I was or who I was meant to be. It’s hard for me to believe that in this same apartment where I experienced by far the most special moment of my life, I also experienced the lowest point, one night while having an anxiety attack.
It’s really a shame if painful, hurtful times don’t serve to change you. Because then all you can say looking back is, “Gosh, that was horrible.” If you don’t grow through hard times, that’s such a wasted opportunity. God wouldn’t allow that to come into your life unless He wanted to teach you a lesson and change you. So find out what the Lord is trying to show you in whatever situation you’re in and learn from it. Skip Heitzig.
That’s when I became closer to God and I kid you not, started praying for the guy who would become my husband one day. And let me be clear, I was not desperate to find someone back then when my heart was shattered in pieces. I honestly believe that we are not meant to spend our lives alone, but I also believe that you should be able to feel very comfortable with spending time with yourself, before finding the right person for you.
I spent a year and half alone, healing. Trying to figure out who I was, my purpose and what I wanted out of a relationship. I know this might sound crazy to you, but I started praying for my future husband, even though I had no idea who this person was going to be. I talked to G about it a few days ago, and I know for sure that the things he went through and the decisions he made back then had a lot to do with the fact that someone was praying non stop, for him to be righteous and to get ready for what was coming his way (aka; me). I’m certain that’s why he ended up finding a job here in Chicago, when the odds seemed in favor of him finding a job in Central America.
We met on Tinder on September 10th 2016 and met in person 5 days after that. I knew there was something about him since day one, and over time he showed me that he was indeed, everything I was looking for. He is kind, smart, humble, supportive, romantic, loving and I know this is not the most important thing, but he’s very easy on the eyes LOL, which you know… it’s a plus.
This incredible human makes me so much better in so many different ways and he is my best friend in the entire world. G, you made me understand why things never worked out with anyone else and I just can’t wait to spend the rest of my life going on adventures with you.
Don’t settle for less than that. Wait for someone who makes you feel like you really can’t live without him. Don’t worry about how old you are and how things seem to be happening for everyone else except for you. Your time will come, and when it does, I promise every single tear you’ve shed will be worth it. Get ready for that person. Try to be better. Pray for him if you believe in God and the power of prayer.
Think about what you want your future husband to be like, but most importantly, think if you are ready to be all of that to someone else. When I sat down and thought about the things I wanted from this other person and asked myself if I was ready to be all of that to him as well, the answer was no. I had a lot of things to work on with myself first, and so I did.
Was it lonely? YES! Was it fun? NOPE. Was it worth it? HECK YES!
One day I felt ready to start dating again and the love of my life was already there waiting for me. (On Tinder but hey, that’s how the modern love story goes these days).
Anyways, all jokes aside, I hope this post helps if you are going through a hard situation. I hope it helps you if your heart has been broken many times and it feels like there is no hope. And if you are with someone, I hope it helps you to think long and hard if the person you are with is ‘Mr Right’ or ‘Mr Right Now’. There’s a difference. A BIG one.
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